Quitting dating sites
I hadn't realized how much of my free time was spent swiping through hundreds of faces.
Now that I have stopped, I have so much more time to engage in real-life conversations with my roommates instead of being sucked into my apps with my thumb glued to the phone.
Like basically every person alive right now, I tried online dating.
I figured if I wasn't on there, I was missing out, missing an opportunity and missing finding my person.
I tried everything from tindr, to Jswipe, to grindr, to every other word that is missing an "e" in it.
I made lots of matches, talked to lots of "interesting" men and even went on a fair number of first dates.
When online dating works, it can be a great way to connect with lots of people you wouldn't have otherwise met.
But when it doesn't, the experience can send you down the everyone-is-awful-so-I'm-probably-dying-alone spiral. I'd rather meet a great guy randomly and organically than deal with the constant rejection and exhaustion.""You just don't get that spark that you do when you know you like someone and it's instant and wonderful. It's like you try to put a face to the person you're talking to, but it just feels like this contrived entity.
But Tinder wasn't helping—it was just a distraction. The ability to come up with whip-smart double entendres on the spot (actually so useful in so many situations, IMO). These are the symptoms of dating-app addiction, a disease that affects millions of Tinder/Bumble/Hinge/ Farmers Only users across the globe.Here, five women—some in recovery, some relapsed—on finding heart in a heartless dating culture and what it's like once you make it to the other side."I feel so much less pressure after quitting the apps.Some are weird, some are looking for kinky sex partners and some are wacko.I've decided that I'm better off alone -- e Harmony.com, and can get rich off someone else's money, not mine.""I got a stalker.